Jiggly Soft and Annoyed

I'm 45... 5' 5.5" .... I use to weigh 288pds... over the last 5 yrs of yo yo dieting and cardio I've managed to lose over 60 pds. I'm now down to 220. The problem is I'm so jiggly and soft. I want to start building muscle so I joined this website hoping to learn what I need to know. Instead I'm more confused now more than ever....i want to build musle but not look like a muscle bound man. My goal is to have a six pack nice arms thick thighs and enhance the butt I already have. I don't know if I should bulk up ..lean out ..cut up body build.. transform become a fitness model or a fit girl... do I increase calories or decrease...do I gain weight to gain muscle.... I've read so much and still have no answers... and when I ask I'm advised to follow a basic thread that I've read 5x's already....😩😩 so frustrated

by aishafaze via Bodybuilding.com Forums - Female Bodybuilding