I started working out about 6 months ago and I have had great results. I've lost about 25 kilos and my muscles are getting really strong. I feel amazing! My jumps are so high, squats so low, and my deadlifts are heavier! My mood has improved dramatically. I love training!
The problem I want to talk about is to do with my relationship with my personal trainer. Early on I realised that I had a crush on this trainer. Just a light, happy crush, nothing serious at all. I would think about him quite a lot in between sessions but it didn't have a huge impact on my life.
Things intensified and I started to think about him more and more. He acted along with this fantasy by touching me, cuddling me, texting me late at night, and involving himself in my personal life. I couldn't help but be baited on by this. Even though I knew the whole time he wasn't interested.
Ultimately I crossed a few lines and texted him late at night whilst drunk out with other guys. (The text was very innocuous "what are you doing?" etc... but the killer is that he wrote back!) Very inappropriate. This trainer,'s boss felt the need to "put his foot down" with me and remind me of the boundaries that are involved. I'm not excusing my behaviour but the banter that went on between us was not one sided. I suspect he should have drawn boundaries much earlier. It's a little awkward now but we're on our way back to normal.
The problem now is that now i still have to deal with this crush and decide how to move forwards. Should we just keep training together? They are more than happy to see me and our relationship is virtually repaired but is it maybe just a disaster waiting to happen. Maybe I should go and get a female trainer and other gym. But also we were very good friends, could talk about anything, and the therapy was great for my mental health. I really don't know where to take it from here. I'm not naive about this, I seriously doubt that he likes me. I just need a way forward. Any advice.
The problem I want to talk about is to do with my relationship with my personal trainer. Early on I realised that I had a crush on this trainer. Just a light, happy crush, nothing serious at all. I would think about him quite a lot in between sessions but it didn't have a huge impact on my life.
Things intensified and I started to think about him more and more. He acted along with this fantasy by touching me, cuddling me, texting me late at night, and involving himself in my personal life. I couldn't help but be baited on by this. Even though I knew the whole time he wasn't interested.
Ultimately I crossed a few lines and texted him late at night whilst drunk out with other guys. (The text was very innocuous "what are you doing?" etc... but the killer is that he wrote back!) Very inappropriate. This trainer,'s boss felt the need to "put his foot down" with me and remind me of the boundaries that are involved. I'm not excusing my behaviour but the banter that went on between us was not one sided. I suspect he should have drawn boundaries much earlier. It's a little awkward now but we're on our way back to normal.
The problem now is that now i still have to deal with this crush and decide how to move forwards. Should we just keep training together? They are more than happy to see me and our relationship is virtually repaired but is it maybe just a disaster waiting to happen. Maybe I should go and get a female trainer and other gym. But also we were very good friends, could talk about anything, and the therapy was great for my mental health. I really don't know where to take it from here. I'm not naive about this, I seriously doubt that he likes me. I just need a way forward. Any advice.
by embe18 via Bodybuilding.com Forums - Female Bodybuilding
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